He should be good at oral sex. On a woman. A skill a man should have? Making fires and pleasing a woman. In the vaginal area. God Bless that Billy Elliot actor.

To make the mysteries of the clit a little less intimidating, we asked a bunch of people with vaginas what they actually want sexual partners to do to their clitoris. I can make myself orgasm in seconds. Not feeling rushed makes a massive difference as well. Missionary position stimulation is the only way I can orgasm through sex. Too much prodding and poking is a massive turn off. Varying pressure, sometimes delicate, sometimes firmer. Rhythm is important.

Everything that appears in this post speaks from the individual experience of those who gave the tips. Perhaps they don't represent the personal preferences of all women, but they all got a lot of likes on Facebook. Now, take a good look at where the clitoris is. Seriously, it's really not all that difficult. It gets sensitive down there and it's not pleasurable at all when you overdo it.

Being willing and eager to venture south is only half OK, maybe 70 percent of the battle — just doing oral isn't enough sometimes. There are things to know, things to literally never do again, and things you can improve. A vagina isn't a clamshell about to snap down on your tongue, and there is no reason to be scared of going down there. By now, in this time of feminist strife, men should have no excuse for being afraid of or grossed out by oral sex if it's something their partner is into. It's really all fine and good.